When the same argument runs in circles, when silence has become the main language, when trust is broken — a third person in the room changes what the two of you can hear. You can come together, or start alone.
up to 120 minutes — €135 · you can start alone
If you recognise your situation, you don't have to choose a method in advance. Write in your first message what is going on — I'll tell you whether I work with situations like that.
Each of you gets time to describe the situation without being interrupted and without looking for someone to blame. I ask about the history of the conflict, about expectations, and about the limits that keep the conversation safe.
If a shared goal is possible, we put it in concrete terms — for example, learning to discuss money without attacking each other. If your goals differ, I first help each of you understand what you really want.
In the session we practise saying feelings and needs more precisely, and hearing what the other one answers. Then we check what of that carries over into ordinary days.
My work is not to decide who is right, but to show the cycle the two of you are stuck in. If one of you feels I'm taking the other one's side, say so straight away — that matters more than any topic of the session.
In the session each of you gets to tell your version to the end. Often it is the first conversation in a long time where nobody is defending themselves — and that alone changes a lot.
Sometimes it helps to talk with each partner one-to-one — only by agreement with both. What is said one-to-one stays between us until the person chooses to bring it into the shared conversation.
Not homework for the sake of ticking a box, but one concrete experience: ten minutes of talking a day with no phones and no household logistics. At the next session we look at how it went.
For a first couples session I set aside up to 120 minutes: enough time to hear both of you and agree on a focus. Online or in person in Almaty.
If you feel very bad right now and are having thoughts of harming yourself, don't wait for an appointment. In Kazakhstan: 112 or 103 for emergency help, and 1303, a free round-the-clock psychological helpline (Almaty). If you are abroad, call your local emergency number — 112 across the EU; US: 911 or 988 · UK: 999 or 112.
A short set of rules the work is built on. They are the same for every format and do not change from session to session.
Yes. An individual session helps you understand your part of the situation, your limits and your possible steps. What you cannot do is change another person's decisions without them taking part.
Keeping the couple together at any cost is not automatically the goal. The work can help make the decision clear and make the conversation more respectful — especially when there are children.
Persuading against someone's will is a poor start: pressure breeds sabotage. Honest wording works: “this is hard for me, I want to try once — just come and see what it's like”. If your partner isn't ready even for that, start with an individual session.
Each of you needs time to tell your version and be heard, and the couple needs time to see its own cycle and try talking differently. An hour is rarely enough for that.
Online sessions are paid in full when you book; for an in-person session in Almaty you pay a 10,000 ₸ deposit when you book and the rest on the day. Rescheduling is free if you let me know at least 24 hours in advance.
If you keep going in circles, a first session helps you see the cycle of the conflict itself. You can book together, or come alone to work out what format fits next.
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