When the same argument runs in circles, when silence has become the main language, when trust is broken — a third person in the room changes what the two of you can hear. You can come together, or start alone.
up to 120 minutes — 135 € · you can start alone
If you recognise your situation, you don't have to choose a method in advance. Write in your first message what is going on — I'll tell you whether I work with a request like that.
Each of you gets time to describe the situation without being interrupted and without looking for someone to blame. I ask about the history of the conflict, about expectations, and about the limits that keep the conversation safe.
If a shared goal is possible, we put it in concrete terms — for example, learning to discuss money without attacking each other. If your goals differ, we work first on making the decision clear.
In the session we practise saying feelings and needs more precisely, and hearing what the other one answers. Then we check what of that carries over into ordinary days.
My work is not to decide who is right, but to show the cycle the two of you are stuck in. If one of you feels I'm taking the other one's side, say so straight away — that matters more than any topic of the session.
In the session each of you gets to tell your version to the end. Often it is the first conversation in a long time where nobody is defending themselves — and that alone changes a lot.
Sometimes it helps to talk with each partner one-on-one — only by agreement with both. What is said one-on-one stays between us until the person chooses to bring it into the shared conversation.
Not homework for the sake of ticking a box, but one concrete experience: ten minutes of talking a day with no phones and no household logistics. At the next session we look at how it went.
| Format | Length | Price |
|---|---|---|
| Couples or family session | up to 120 minutes | 135 € |
For a first couples session I set aside up to 120 minutes: enough time to hear both of you and agree on a focus. Online or in person in Almaty.
A short set of rules the work is built on. They are the same for every format and do not change from session to session.
Yes. An individual session helps you understand your part of the situation, your limits and your possible steps. What you cannot do is change another person's decisions without them taking part.
I don't act as a judge and I don't hand out blame. My task is to hold the structure of the conversation, notice the repeating cycle and help both of you speak more precisely.
Keeping the couple together at any cost is not automatically the goal. The work can help make the decision clear and make the conversation more respectful — especially when there are children.
Persuading against someone's will is a poor start: pressure breeds sabotage. Honest wording works: “this is hard for me, I want to try once — just look at the format”. If your partner isn't ready even for that, start with an individual session.
Each of you needs room to speak and be heard, and the couple needs time to see its own cycle and try talking differently. A first couples session needs time to hear you both and to see the cycle — that is why it runs up to 120 minutes.
Yes, by agreement with both of you. What is said in a one-to-one meeting stays there until the person decides to bring it into the shared conversation.
Online sessions are prepaid in full at booking. Free rescheduling up to 24 hours ahead.
If you keep going in circles, a first session helps you see the cycle of the conflict itself. You can book together, or come alone to work out what format fits next.
